Monday, 9 November 2015

Essence of Strong Relation

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After a long time, I’m writing back here because I was li’l busy. This article is also related to one of my family stress management case. However, I’m still engage in that case but up till now, I’ve learnt something new to share with you. Whenever we think that we are in true love relation with someone, mostly we are just pretend to be in true love relation. You may shock to read it or may be disagree with my statement, but it’s true…To be in a true love relation, is rare.
A very sweet couple met me few days ago. The Sir was complaining about the Ma’am that she don’t love him truly, while the Ma’am said, he is wrong. The Sir claimed that if she loves me truly then why I’ve complaints??? Now He has a point… Actually she was speaking true but the mistake was both of them to not maintain a balance relation. Both were in a true love relation but it was an unbalanced relation. Just for instance the Sir said; I feel like she don’t give me importance, on the other side the Ma’am said; I try to keep him happy and he is everything to me…
Well whatever the story we should consider the conclusion and results for our learning… The essence of a strong relationship is Balance in expression of emotions. I conclude the following pivotal points for a strong relation.
  • ·         Never let your spouse to feel inferior to you in anyway. Discuss all the matters or at least the only matters which are making you blue and sad. Because, if you will not discuss such matters, your spouse will be worried to see you sad and may be your spouse will think that he/she is not so much capable to understand the matter or problem. So always discuss and never feel your spouse inferior in that way.
  • ·         Just keep in your mind your spouse can be your best friend only if you make your spouse to feel like so.
  • ·         Never just think to do, instead always try to do. It means; if you want to say “love you” to your spouse then say it rather than to keep in your mind. Our acts must depict our real emotions. Otherwise, if you love your spouse with a true heart and don’t say it, your spouse may feel opposite about your true emotions or may feel a one sided love matter.
  • ·         Always respect and celebrate the success and ideas of your spouse. If you are not agreeing in anyway then give a suggestion as a kind adviser.
  • ·         Never hesitate to share your smiles and sadness with your spouse. Discussions enhance trust and loyalty. Keep remember, most of the love relations end just due to communication gap or to not make discussions. Always have a “Be Real, Be Clear” strategy. Whatever you feel or think about your spouse discuss it with your spouse. It would be help to avoid confusion and tension.
  • ·         The most important thing is to control your emotions logically. Some time you seem to be a loving one but your spouse getting irritate. Understand the situation or routine of your spouse, never make unreal expectation to him/her.
Always remember when relationship is weak, the simple words like; Thank you, Sorry, Welcome, Good Bye, and No problem, make a big difference. But when the relationship become strong the words like; Shut up, Get lost, Nonsense, Idiot or even Go to Hell, will not have any impact... It's the beauty of strong relation. A strong relation starts with the two brave people, ready to sacrifice anything for one another. But fall in love with someone who does not make you think that Love is Hard... 
Well, have a happy life… :)

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Sunday, 6 October 2013

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Friday, 20 September 2013

What Should I Do For Best??? Need Your Suggestion Please!

As  my nature and my job requirements oblige me to serve the community in a sustainable way, I have to meet with different people from different communities having different social and moral values. Therefore, I feel the need to study the social psychology to make more efficient my work. As I’m the motivational speaker and career counselor in a project named; Agri. Education Lecture Series. I’ve to face many different and some time harsh or miserable conditions of students. Particularly in the southern areas of Punjab, Pakistan, where the most areas are undeveloped having lack of advance educational system. Students have not the proper career counseling facilities. In fact, most of the students don’t know what to do after Secondary School Certification. They don’t know, which discipline would be the best for their future? And what is their passion for? Due to such dilemmas, usually they select a wrong discipline and show the poor progress. They also have the social and economical pressure from their family and community.
In the selection of wrong study discipline for the career, the major role is played by the parents and teachers. For example, parents pressurize their child to be a doctor or engineer while the child has the passion for the arts or music. Then how can we expect a sound and successful future for the child. The teacher is said to be good teacher only if he/she prepare a student for the fulfillment of the hope and expectations of their parents. This thing makes the education sector a business in which most of the talent has spoiled and this way is so on…

I deal such students having low self esteem and a mistaken ambition or unaware about their passion or specialty. With blessings of God Almighty, I’ve a history of successful cases. Some time I’ve to deliver a lecture to the parents and teachers to discover the hidden talent of the students.

Friday, 10 May 2013

Deal Logically

Well, after a long time… I think! It’s going to almost a year that I’d posted my experiences. O’ I know that; I’m not a celebrity you waiting for. But blogging is some kind of meditation for me, it could be for anyone. During all this time I observed and faced many adorable and disgust circumstances and the life simply continues… But all of those were experiences. I’m going to li’l bit share with you.
Emotions…! My dear friends, these are emotions, make our lives delightful or disgust. Can we control them??? Yes! Of course, But most of us, actually a big number don’t pay a little attention to it. According to recent studies it has been proved that emotions are contagious. For instant, if you join the company of good people, you feel lighthearted and energized. If you have a spouse of bad or sad in attitude, it will make you sad or feel bad. Actually we are emotion contagions for each other. Our brains reflect the emotional state of one another. It is not empathy but just like that. However it is strong enough to disturb our body and mental chemistry either positively or negatively.
The good thing is that we can make our lives successful and comfortable by controlling the emotions “logically”. As I’m so called “Non Certified”, therefore, I’m going to avoid technicalities. A person is more stable mentally, who is more logical to its relations and social life, comparatively healthier, happier and comparatively have long lifespan than a person, who don’t deal its relations and social life logically. But what does logic mean…? Logic is the reasoned and reasonable judgment of all aspect of a living being’s life and its surroundings. Now let me brief you, how can we control our emotions logically?
Whenever you meet a person, your brain starts to work and analyze the personality of that person consciously or unconsciously. Before your brain receives the reflection of emotions just think for a while that; is it important for you to take analysis? If it is…then how much is important? Avoid over thinking and produce strong positive pulse of attitude. For instant, meet someone with warm heart and a sweet smile. If you dislike a person, whom which you are going to meet occasionally then do it more properly. And assume that your positivity will check the reflection of incompatible emotions. Actually it’s a mental trick according to which you just alter or advance your focus. It may be possible a person in anger probably more positive in calm situations than you but matter is to avoid the effects. Pay attention to anyone as much he/she deserves. Don’t make huge expectations in all aspects of your life as expectation is initials of disturbance and one of the major causes of weakening the relations. Don’t react abruptly, just think over the matter and conditions for a while with cool mind. I don’t want to write a technical and extensive note. Just keep in your mind;
There is a simple key to react logically to understand, what is really important and beneficial for you and others.
Although the limits of logic and selfishness are too close to confused but important thing is to keep in your mind that if your logic smells like selfishness then it’d not be a true logic. For this purpose make sure the self jurisprudence. So be careful and deal logically for a successful life.                  

Friday, 11 January 2013


According to world health organization following are such habits that will damage your brain severely:

1. No Breakfast – People who do not take breakfast are going to have a lower blood sugar level. This leads to an insufficient supply of nutrients to the brain causing brain degeneration.

2. Overreacting – It causes hardening of the brain arteries, leading to a decrease in mental power.

3. Smoking – It causes multiple brain shrinkage and may lead to Alzheimer disease.

4. High Sugar consumption – Too much sugar will interrupt the absorption of proteins and nutrients causing malnutrition and may interfere with brain development.

5. Air Pollution – The brain is the largest oxygen consumer in our body. Inhaling polluted air decreases the supply of oxygen to the brain, bringing about a decrease in brain efficiency.

6. Sleep Deprivation – Sleep allows our brain to rest. Long term deprivation from sleep will accelerate the death of brain cells.

7. Head covered while sleeping – Sleeping with the head covered increases the concentration of carbon dioxide and decrease concentration of oxygen that may lead to brain damaging effects.

8. Working your brain during illness – Working hard or studying with sickness may lead to a decrease in effectiveness of the brain.

9. Lacking in stimulating thoughts – Thinking is the best way to train our brain, lacking in brain stimulation thoughts may cause brain shrinkage.

10. Talking Rarely – Intellectual conversations will promote the efficiency of the brain.